How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (ILLUSTRATED)

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♥♥How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie♥♥

From the Author of Books Like:

1. How to Develop Self-Confidence And Influence People by Public Speaking

2. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

3. The Art of Public Speaking

4. How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age

5. The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking

6. The Leader In You

7. How To Enjoy Your Life And Your Job

8. Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business

9. Lincoln the Unknown

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” From the fundamental techniques in handling people to the various ways to make them like you, this book offers insights on how to win people to your way of thinking; how to increase your ability to get things done; the ways to be a leader and change people without arousing resentment; and how to make friends quickly. A timeless bestseller, Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People has been an inspiration for many of those who are now famous and successful. With principles that stand as relevant in modern times as ever before, it continues to help people on their way to success.

♥♥How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (ILLUSTRATED)♥♥

Master the fine art of communication, express your most important ideas, and create genuine impact with the help of international bestselling author Dale Carnegie. Written in his trademark conversational style, this book illustrates time-tested techniques through engaging anecdotes and events from the lives of legendary orators, historical figures, and successful leaders.

This book will help you:

– Become a great conversationalist, leaving a good impression wherever you go.

– Persuade people to do what you want, unlocking numerous life-changing opportunities as a result.

– Become a true leader, mastering the fine art of people management.

– Create incredible and long-lasting connections that offer you genuine value and growth opportunities

Full of timeless wisdom and sage advice, this practical handbook on human relations will equip you to navigate the treacherous waters of interpersonal relationships in both business and social settings. Now you too can unearth your true potential, forge long-lasting relationships, and discover How to Win Friends and Influence People in every walk of life!

Dale Harbison Carnegie (November 24, 1888 – November 1, 1955) was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and interpersonal skills. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of the bestselling How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948) and many more self-help books.

Summary of the Book

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. “You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lost it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it,” because, “a man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still”. Instead, try to:

A. Welcome the disagreement – you might avoid a serious mistake.

B. Watch out for and distrust your first instinct to be defensive.

C. Control your temper.

D. Listen first.

E. Look first for areas of agreement.

F. Be honest about and apologise for your mistakes.

G. Promise to think over your opponent’s ideas and study them carefully.

H. Thank the other person sincerely for their time and interest.

I. Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.

2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say “You’re wrong.” It’s “tantamount to saying: ‘I’m smarter than you are.’” Instead, consider that “you will never get into trouble by admitting that you may be wrong” and see the above point. Even if you know you are right, try something like: “I may be wrong. I frequently am. If I’m wrong I want to be put right. Let’s examine the facts.”

3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. “By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.” Have the courage to admit your errors. Let the other person take the role of a collaborative and benevolent forgiver rather than an opponent.

4. Begin in a friendly way. Friendliness begets friendliness. Glow with it. Overflow with it. Remember that “a drop of honey can catch more flies than a gallon of gall.” and see also Aesop’s fable “The Wind and the Sun”.

5. Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately. “Begin by emphasising – and keep emphasising – the things on which you agree… that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.” Try to begin with questions to which the only conceivable reply is “Yes”. This will help things get off on a collaborative foot. And remember, “He who treads softly goes far.”

6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. “Let other people talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask the questions. Let them tell you a few things… Don’t [interrupt]… They won’t pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression”. Don’t waste air boasting about your own achievements: “If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you.”

7. Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers. “You have much more faith in ideas that you discover for yourself than in ideas that are handed to you.” Allow others to design and become invested in their own solutions. Consult with them, collaborate on and influence a half-finished idea rather than presenting a final solution. Avoid self-importance, instead, remember “The reason why rivers and seas receive the home of a hundred mountain streams is that they keep below them.”

8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. Take the time to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If you can, sit down with a piece of paper and a pen. Set a timer for 10 minutes and begin with the words: “What X is probably feeling now is…” Keep writing from their perspective until the timer goes off.

9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. Begin always with “I don’t blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do.” Be honest about your own flaws and idiosyncrasies. It will help you be more sympathetic with those of others. Remember “Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you”.

10. Appeal to the nobler motives. “People are honest and want to discharge their obligations, the exceptions to that rule are comparatively few”. They “will in most cases react favourably if you make them feel that you consider them honest, upright and fair”.

11. Dramatise your ideas. Present your ideas in an interesting, creative and dramatic way that captures attention. Think laterally; how can you present tabular data in a creative way that encourages interaction and engages more of the senses than just sight? Take your inspiration from television and advertising – they’ve been in this game a long time.

12. Throw down a challenge. “The way to get things done is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid money-getting way, but in the desire to excel.” Pay is not enough to motivate people. Instead, the work itself must be motivating and exciting. Make performance metrics public. Let people enjoy a challenge. “That is what every successful person loves: the game. The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his or her worth, to excel, to win.”

♥♥How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie♥♥